I’m definitely going to pull a Jekyll vs. Hyde . . . Beyonce vs. Sasha Fierce right now. What can I say? The Jonas Brothers have that effect on me; our relationship is tumultuous.
I love the song Pom Poms.
And I also strongly dislike it.
It’s a multi-flavored mixture of emotions. Don’t ask me how this is possible . . . the complexities of the feminine heart have been a mystery for a long time. I think it’s mysterious-ness falls right under the mystery of the Trinity.
There’s no room for that kind of wishy-washy-ness when it comes down to deciding where you want to spend eternity. Saying “I do” during those baptismal promises was a powerful moment for me. It meant I was recommitting to giving my life over to my bridegoom, Jesus Christ, and His Church (Ephesians 5).
I want a lot of things out of life. I want to be happy. I want to feel like I have purpose. I want to be loved. I want to make a difference. I want to live a life I’m proud of. I want to be a saint. I want chocolate and tacos but not at the same time.
But I don’t know where to find those vague and lofty desires. Are they only talked about in poems and songs? Because so many people around me aren’t happy with their lives, or haven’t found their purpose, or are settling for counterfeit love and a bottle of booze.
Warning: first I’m going to rant, then I shall apologize, and then I will offer a solution for you because I’m nice like that. And because I like you and want you to be happier than you look in your #foreveralone selfie and sound in your #foreveralone tweet.
Yes, you need to date! Dating is an important part of discerning the kind of person you want to marry. How will you know what you’re looking for in a marriage partner if you don’t experience different kinds of people? I am NOT saying you should hooking up with everyone. I am saying you can’t expect your future spouse to show up on your doorstep and fall in love with you at first sight. All good things take effort.
If you’re at the place where you’re wondering whether or not you should begin a committed relationship with someone, here’s some advice I pulled from the recesses of my wisdom treasure trove.
I hope it’s helpful. I think it is . . . unless your goal is to date Harry Styles. I got nothin’ for you there. Good luck.
This is Don and Norma Jean. They’ve been married for 60 years. I only talked with them for a few minutes but that was all it took for me to see how much they were in still in love. Couples like Don and Norma Jean prove to us that we aren’t all doomed to broken hearts and broken marriages. True love exists; marriage is possible. Every magazine will tell you about “10 Tips to Find a Hot Date,” “How to Make Your Crush Love You,” “7 Ways to Keep Him Interested,” and “The Failed Marriages Read more [...]
What’s the point of judging a girl by her clothes anyway?
To change her mind and get her to change her clothes? The idea that you should run around and say “it has to come to this line and this line only” in order to be modest is such a legalistic approach and misses the whole point of the discussion about modesty. Since when do people – especially young people – respond well to being confined to a set of rules? It doesn’t work. No one wants to obey the ten commandments if they don’t have a relationship with God. And no one will listen to someone who only wants to tell them what they’re suggesting with how many inches of leg they’re showing. There’s something more going on.
Fulfilled, happy people don’t post suggestive photos of themselves on Facebook.
I want a love that’s strong enough to wait for marriage and commitment. Someone who wants what’s best for me and my body. I’m not looking for someone who’s okay with me chemically altering my body for the sake of pleasure without consequences.
I want the consequences – but I want them in marriage where they’re supposed to be. I want to feel bonded to another person, body and soul (Genesis 2:24). I want to be faithful to one person and give myself fully, freely, and allow that to bear the fruit of children.
We have a God who deals in the impossible. This is huge, life-changing, and has everything to do with Christmas. I think we’re so used to the story of “Christmas” that we can easily forget to spend time just letting ourselves be amazed by the story.
It’s not that shopping is bad. Sales are one of the ways God loves me. I just have to be careful to use the money I have wisely. Do I really need that pair of heels in the same color I already own? Or do I need that throw pillow that spends more time being thrown to the floor than it does on my bed? Probs not.
The truth is that buying more “things” is so silly in the grand scheme of life.
Are you going to see Twilight? (See title for my answer to that question.) My parentals would be thrilled by my wise choice. Maybe yours don’t care. Maybe your mom thinks your “Team Jacob” shirt means you joined your town soccer league. I don’t know. I’m just making stuff up . . . I don’t really know your mom. (I know it’s your grandma who would think that.) I’m not here to approve or disapprove of Twilight Breaking Dawn Part 2. I’m here to say in all honesty that you’d Read more [...]
Let’s be honest, “All Saints Day” does not refer to me. I have more in common with popcorn appreciation day. Or Taylor Swift fan club Mondays.
This feast commemorates all the saints in heaven and I feel like I’m so far away from being a saint. I want to be a saint though! I try really hard to not sin. In fact, I know the Ten Commandments about as well as I know the lyrics to “As Long As You Love Me.” So . . . very well.
If you haven’t listened to T-Swift’s new album Red, go clear your schedule and come back to this blog later. My words will be empty and boring if you aren’t hearing the refrain of “All too well” or “Treacherous” on repeat in your head.
If you have been listening to her album, courtesy of iTunes, Target, a Papa John’s Pizza, or a YouTube playlist, then we are definitely friends. (If you participated in any sort of countdown to Red, you’re instantly elevated to best friend status.)
Miss Swift’s album is about more love and heartbreak than I’ve ever experienced. Like, ever.
“You’re out of control! I’m sending you to the convent.” Are those words that you would want to hear? A teenager named Teresa sure didn’t appreciate when her father told her that. As a little girl, born in Avila, Spain in the 1500s, Teresa tried to run off and be a martyr, but by the time she became a teen, all of that enthusiasm for the faith was gone.
Teresa loved attention – especially from boys. She had a passion for fancy clothes and jewelry and was known for being an excellent dancer. One of her favorite pastimes was reading romance novels, and she constantly had a new one. Even when her father sent her away, surprisingly the convent wasn’t a whole lot different…
Did creation start with a “big bang”? What does the Catholic Church say about that? Have you ever wondered if the creation story in the book of Genesis is real? Are we supposed to take it literally and leave science behind?
No way! The Church is all about us using our faith and our reason. Just because science explains the natural world around us, doesn’t mean it disproves that God created the world.
Did you know that the Catholic Church actually cares about homosexuals? I even feel confident saying that we love them alot. I sincerely hope that no one has ever made you think otherwise because they were sorely misled and misinformed . . . and probably unhappy too because of this faulty way of thinking . . .