Emotions/Healthy Mind/My Life

You Are Not Helpless and Here’s Why

I know Fight Song was so last year but come on. It’s an amazing song and yes I still turn up the volume in the car when it comes on the radio. I love it for so many reasons but mostly because it’s a non-victim anthem and am I all about that.

Let me explain.

You see, someone who sees him or herself as a victim would never, ever be heard saying the words of Fight Song.

This is my fight song
Take back my life song
Prove I’m alright song
My power’s turned on
Starting right now I’ll be strong

Those words are a reminder that the amazing thing about being human is the power that we have to choose how we want to respond to life. No one has ever had a perfect life from beginning to end. Ever. That’s not how life works.

Tough things are going to happen. People will hurt you. The rain will pour. Your heart will break.

But grace is real. And God’s help is available to us whenever we need it.

All these bad things have happened to me and I know they will continue to happen to me. I don’t have absolute power over what happens, as much as I can take measures to protect myself. What I do have in my power is to live my life fighting back against the storms that want to knock me down and make me into a victim and God’s grace enables me to do that. I can turn to Him in moments of struggle and draw strength from my God who suffered every pain that I suffer and who desires to be my rock and my stronghold.

The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. (Psalm 18:2)

People who are set on being victims see the world as a big, bad monster out to get them. Victims will tell you about all the bad things that have happened recently. They want pity. Victims want to be treated in a special way, different from others. They feel entitled to this “special treatment” because gosh-darn-it don’t you know everyone and everything is out to get them. They’re chronic complainers. Victims let bad people, circumstances, and situations dictate how they feel and act.

And that is a choice they make.

Another choice, the opposite (and just as possible) choice is the one that fighters make. A fighter does not allow their moods, emotions, and actions to be dictated by the negative things in life. A fighter makes the choice to make the best of their situation. They see the light in the midst of the darkness. They choose to be grateful for what they do have instead of depressed about what they don’t have. Fighters are heroes because they believe in something better instead of resigning themselves to being the underdog.

I want to be a fighter and I’m working on it every day. Being a victim is tempting because it can get you a lot of attention. That attitude can manipulate people into feeling bad for you and giving you attention and special favors. That’s appealing, isn’t it?

But what is more appealing is a life full of joy and peace. That’s what I’m after. God told me in John 10:10 that He came to this earth so that I can live fully alive. Why would I settle for a victim-mentality when I have the fighter-mentality available to me? I all have to do is choose.

I’m here. I woke up today. And so I’m still going to fight.

Be a fighter with me.

Take back your life from the negativity that is trying to push you down. I know you want to be happy, and I can tell you that you will never be your best self while a victim-mentality is holding you back.

You will never know the excitement of being the one with the power over your own life if you give that power to whatever bad circumstances are happening. Victims don’t fight back; but you and I can. We can be better than that. We have a strength available to us that comes from above in the midst of our weakness. God promises to give us the grace we need… if only we ask.

Pray for the grace to choose positivity, to choose to see the good, to choose to take control over how you respond to your circumstances. That’s how you will be a fighter. That’s how you will be the hero of your own life.

Victims don’t fight, heroes do.

I’m praying for you.

About the Author

Christina Mead

I'm just striving for sainthood through lots of imperfect ways. I daydream about heaven, where I want to be the patron saint of lifeguards. I think I might paint my nails just so I can pick it off. I wrote a book about Mary and what she taught us about being a Catholic girl. It's called "That One Girl" and I think you'd like it! Follow me on Twitter @christinamead.