Also, eye contact is important. How many times does the person you’re speaking to feel they have your undivided attention? Turn off screens – get away from them. Eye contact is the quickest and simplest way to acknowledge Christ in the other.
Now, if you’re having a “conversation” through a screen, ask yourself if that’s the best medium to be using to have that conversation. Words can be misread and mistaken. Do you ever text just “because you don’t want to get into a long conversation?” Go the extra mile. Don’t text when you can call. Don’t call when you can sit face to face. Don’t sit face to face and have your mind in another area code. A huge part of authentic communication is emotional presence, not only physical presence.
One night in high school, my ex-boyfriend’s best friend called me up. He told me that he and his girlfriend, and my ex-boyfriend, were all hanging out, and that I should come over. From the tone in his voice and slight innuendo in his words, I knew what this meant.
My ex-boyfriend and I had played the “friends with benefits” game before. Thus I wasn’t surprised and actually felt a bit flattered that this popular, talented, good-looking guy would beckon me to him, even if we weren’t still dating.
I excitedly rushed over to the best friend’s house, greeted everyone, and proceeded to “hang out” exclusively with my ex-boyfriend. I didn’t see anything wrong with making-out with my ex-boyfriend, because after all, I wasn’t having sex.
Yesterday, December 26th, we celebrated the feast of St. Stephen. He was the first martyr. Isn’t it interesting how the Church has placed the feast of Christmas and the feast of this saint right after one another? I feel like we’re supposed to learn something here . . .
Accepting Jesus as our Savior and following Him costs a lot. Blessed Bartolome knew that and wasn’t afraid of death even though it meant leaving his beloved behind.
Below is a letter that Bartolomé Blanco Márquez wrote to his girlfriend from prison the day before he was executed during religious persecution in Spain in the 1930′s.
What it is. You rely on the person whom you are dating for everything. This person gives you a sense of worth. This person is the reason for waking up. Where you see it. Some high school relationships begin fine and then after a couple of months the two fall into co-dependence. You know it when you see it because the couple tends to leave behind their friends and family. Why people accept co-dependence. Co-dependence is very deceptive because it pretends to be a mature relationship that it is Read more [...]
Crash diets don’t work. If a woman loves donuts or a man loves buffalo wings, they have the choice: control their flesh or schedule the angioplasty. Simply eliminating the temptation isn’t enough; the body must be retrained and self-control must come into play. The same is true in the battle for purity.
Looking for relationship advice? Don’t listen to the radio. After a 20 year hiatus, duets are are back: the guy and the girl appear on the same song to make sense of their relationship with one another. Unfortunately, the top duets of the summer all glorified dysfunctional relationships that are doomed to fail.
Like most girls, I love watching chick flicks. It is romantic and exciting to watch a love story unfold and end happily ever after. However, at the end of the movie, I feel incomplete as a single woman and immediately start daydreaming about my future spouse. St. Paul says, “The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit,” 1 Corinthians 7:34. Am I acting as though I am unmarried or married when I am focusing on my future spouse? Sometimes when we think our vocation is marriage, we tend to focus on catching a guy with our beauty. The more we flirt, the quicker we fall in love and live happily ever after… or so we think.
Any graduating senior will tell you what they wish they knew as when they were freshman. Most of this comes from circumstance: if someone studied all the time and never had fun, they might tell you to have more fun. If someone who had a lot of fun but never studied, they will tell you to study more. So everyone has different some nugget of wisdom they will share. Then there are some universal lessons that everybody learns, whether they like it or not. It doesn’t matter who you are or what Read more [...]
Q: I just recently ended a relationship with an atheist. Was I wrong for going out with him in the first place? While I dated him, I totally felt like I could convince him that Catholicism is a wonderful thing. Instead, I felt like I was offending the Lord. Was I wrong for going out with my atheist boyfriend?
A: Not in the least. Please, don’t feel guilty about that choice in your life. If your intent was to show yourself as a person of faith and to maybe try to encourage him to see beyond the narrow, lonely view of the world atheism professes, then I don’t see anything you should be guilty about.