In this particular relationship after my parent’s divorce, the girl I was dating became everything to me. I drew my worth from her compliments and her attention. I drew my joy from her company. I wasn’t simply finding joy in her and recognizing Christ in her, I was putting her first in my life before Christ.
She was the one I would go to with all my problems. I went to church to see her, not Jesus. And Jesus loved me through it all. When that relationship fell apart, so did I . . .
Hey girls, have you ever wondered if there’s a secret to getting a guy to like you? Well . . . there’s not just one, there’s 10!
They’re an easy 10, but there is a catch. This list isn’t just to get any guy to like you; it’s a list to get the right guy to like you. Why? Because you are awesome and beautiful and that’s what you deserve. You don’t deserve just anyone who’s going to take you for granted and mistreat you. You deserve the best.
I hope and pray you believe that too.
Whether single or in a relationship, dating can be a wonderful, exciting, intimidating, and sometimes bizarre event. The stress of just figuring out what to wear can send you over the edge. Then there are all the other details. Who is paying? Where do we go? Do we show affection? How do I flirt? Or more importantly, how do we just survive those crippling embarrassing moments. Maybe you are like me and awkward moments never seem to end. If so, here are some fun tips to help your dates go a little smoother than mine: Dance. Dating is like a [...]
“By Lust I mean that affection of the mind that aims at the enjoyment of one’s self and one’s neighbor without reference to God. Lust indulged became habit, and habit unresisted became necessity. There is no remedy so powerful against the heat of concupiscence as the remembrance of our Savior’s Passion. In all my difficulties I never found anything so efficacious as the wounds of Christ: In them I sleep secure; from them I derive new life.” – Saint Augustine, Father and Doctor of the Church
I have to admit I’m a bit late on this one. I realize that the whole “Jesus vs. Religion” showdown is sooooo last month, but I think it’s worth taking another look at.
Who hasn’t thought at one point or another about how great it would be to just have Jesus without all the rules and lists of things we’re supposed to do? Why do we need all the rules? Why can’t we just have Jesus without all the obligations? Sure, Jesus spoke often about the importance of following His commands (Luke 8:21) but why do we even need religion then? Why do we need labels and definitions? Why can’t we just be close to Him and not worry about all the details?
I always have the worst dates.
Seriously, the movie How To Lose a Guy in Ten Days has nothing on me. My dating disasters have been frequent and broad in their range of humiliation: I have been taken to the hospital, spilled my drink over my date’s new couch, called the guy by the wrong name, got lost and stuck in a ditch, and laughed so hard I choked on my meal nearly causing the waiter to perform the Heimlich.
And you wonder why I am still single?
But wait there’s more. Here are my top two worst date experiences.
In high school, I played football and ran for track and field. As a young man just coming into my faith, it was tough to see and hear the guys talk about women in a way that was so degrading. It forced me to question what the truth was. I was learning about God and His plan for us, but what the other guys were saying was completely contradictory to what God was saying.
I got to a point where I looked at what society was telling me would make me happy regarding women: sex, popularity and partying; and I asked myself, “Is that it? Is this as good as it gets in life?”
There was something inside me that wasn’t satisfied with that. There was a burning in my heart for so much more. I knew that God had greater plans.
Are you looking for some creative date ideas to do with a special someone this month? Valentines day is right around the corner and why not celebrate in a fun and creative way?
There is no reason why you cannot make this date the Best. Date. Ever.
Say “Goodbye” to boring because here are some ideas to help spark your imagination.
Also, eye contact is important. How many times does the person you’re speaking to feel they have your undivided attention? Turn off screens – get away from them. Eye contact is the quickest and simplest way to acknowledge Christ in the other.
Now, if you’re having a “conversation” through a screen, ask yourself if that’s the best medium to be using to have that conversation. Words can be misread and mistaken. Do you ever text just “because you don’t want to get into a long conversation?” Go the extra mile. Don’t text when you can call. Don’t call when you can sit face to face. Don’t sit face to face and have your mind in another area code. A huge part of authentic communication is emotional presence, not only physical presence.
One night in high school, my ex-boyfriend’s best friend called me up. He told me that he and his girlfriend, and my ex-boyfriend, were all hanging out, and that I should come over. From the tone in his voice and slight innuendo in his words, I knew what this meant.
My ex-boyfriend and I had played the “friends with benefits” game before. Thus I wasn’t surprised and actually felt a bit flattered that this popular, talented, good-looking guy would beckon me to him, even if we weren’t still dating.
I excitedly rushed over to the best friend’s house, greeted everyone, and proceeded to “hang out” exclusively with my ex-boyfriend. I didn’t see anything wrong with making-out with my ex-boyfriend, because after all, I wasn’t having sex.
Yesterday, December 26th, we celebrated the feast of St. Stephen. He was the first martyr. Isn’t it interesting how the Church has placed the feast of Christmas and the feast of this saint right after one another? I feel like we’re supposed to learn something here . . .
Accepting Jesus as our Savior and following Him costs a lot. Blessed Bartolome knew that and wasn’t afraid of death even though it meant leaving his beloved behind.
Below is a letter that Bartolomé Blanco Márquez wrote to his girlfriend from prison the day before he was executed during religious persecution in Spain in the 1930′s.
What it is. You rely on the person whom you are dating for everything. This person gives you a sense of worth. This person is the reason for waking up. Where you see it. Some high school relationships begin fine and then after a couple of months the two fall into co-dependence. You know it when you see it because the couple tends to leave behind their friends and family. Why people accept co-dependence. Co-dependence is very deceptive because it pretends to be a mature relationship that it is not. Why co-dependence is the counterfeit of love. Let’s get this straight. In [...]
Crash diets don’t work. If a woman loves donuts or a man loves buffalo wings, they have the choice: control their flesh or schedule the angioplasty. Simply eliminating the temptation isn’t enough; the body must be retrained and self-control must come into play. The same is true in the battle for purity.
This episode, the gang gives the low down on what makes for good flirting – and what doesn’t.
This episode’s panel includes host Matt Smith joined by Kemi Ndolo, Alissa Roberts, and Maria Raus.
This episode, a girl writes in to ask “How do I know if this guy really likes me, or is just trying to take advantage of me?”
Along with Matt Smith as host, Pam Savoia, Nick Chavez, and Candyce Smith join the conversation.
The panel answers a listener’s question – “Is it okay for me to date in high school if I might have a vocation?”
This time on Love Life, the gang answers the question “How do I tell my good friend that I like them? Will it ruin our friendship?”
Joining host Matt Smith in this episode are Carrie Bigley, Kemi Ndolo, and Nikki Magnus.
This episode, the gang answers the question, “I just helped a girl that’s a friend of mine get through a breakup, but now I’m attracted to her. Should I ask her out?”
Looking for relationship advice? Don’t listen to the radio. After a 20 year hiatus, duets are are back: the guy and the girl appear on the same song to make sense of their relationship with one another. Unfortunately, the top duets of the summer all glorified dysfunctional relationships that are doomed to fail.
Like most girls, I love watching chick flicks. It is romantic and exciting to watch a love story unfold and end happily ever after. However, at the end of the movie, I feel incomplete as a single woman and immediately start daydreaming about my future spouse. St. Paul says, “The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit,” 1 Corinthians 7:34. Am I acting as though I am unmarried or married when I am focusing on my future spouse? Sometimes when we think our vocation is marriage, we tend to focus on catching a guy with our beauty. The more we flirt, the quicker we fall in love and live happily ever after… or so we think.
