Courtney Kissinger

We Are Never Getting Back Together: Advice for Breakups

Q: Do you have any advice for getting through a breakup?

A: Listen to Taylor Swift’s “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together” (or something comparable) over and over again. Eat a pint of ice cream or a box of chocolates. Let yourself be sad… for a little while. Then start moving on. How? Try these personally-tested tips:

  • Talk to your mom or someone you trust as a mother-figure in your life. She’s most likely been there before.
  • Spend time with good friends.
  • Do things that you like to do – listen to music, go on a long run, hang out with your girl friends, or watch a movie (a comedy, NOT a romance).
  • Resist the urge to tweet bad things about them or trash talk them to everyone you meet. In the long run, saying hurtful things about someone else – no matter how true it may be – is not going to make you feel any better. Take the high road and believe you are going to feel better for doing so.
  • Be thankful that the relationship has ended!
  • Look for the lessons that you learned, both the good and the bad, from your relationship. Know that the relationship you’re meant to be in will be filled with exponentially more good things.
  • As a good friend told me when I was going through a breakup: Certain people are in our lives for certain times for certain reasons. Not everyone is meant to be a lifelong friend; otherwise those lifelong friendships wouldn’t be so special.
  • Don’t try to work on your friendship with your ex right away (if at all). You both need space and time to get over the relationship, and it’s just confusing to your heart to try to be good friends immediately after ending a romantic relationship.

And lastly, trust that God has a plan for you. A plan for your future happiness, not a life sentence of misery! (Jeremiah 29:11).

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Courtney Kissinger

About the Author

I graduated from law school and then decided to become an elementary school teacher. I’m married to an arguably attractive youth minister, Brian, and we have the cutest daughter. I hate cheese. That includes cheese on pizza, Nacho Cheese Doritos, cottage cheese, and cream cheese. I will eat cheesecake if it’s covered with chocolate.