I Quit Boys


Two years ago, I was in the final semester of my college career, just a few months from graduating with my Bachelors degree. The summer before my senior year, I had gotten closer to Jesus than I’d ever been before. The closer I drew to Christ, the more and more I felt like he wanted to do something big in my life. I could tell he was asking me to make a big change.

But listen. I had a full life. I was taking a full class load, worked 20 hours a week, and I was active in my sorority. I couldn’t quit school, I couldn’t quit work, and while I probably could have quit my sorority, that wasn’t an option, because God had led me to my sisters with great intentionality. So, I quit the only thing left.

I quit boys.

On February 16, 2011, I began a yearlong dating fast, after lots of prayer and reflection. Don’t get me wrong — I didn’t have a hot date (or even an average date) every week. Guys weren’t tripping over each other or standing in line to date me.

My dating fast wasn’t so much about the sacrifice of not going on actual dates, but more about the posture of my heart. When a guy paid me the slightest bit of attention, my heart was ready for wedding bells. I had a crush on a different boy all the time. I was so distracted by guys who weren’t worth my time, and frankly, didn’t even know my name, that I didn’t have enough space in my heart for the One who was already captivated by me — Jesus Christ.

With lots of worries and fears, about if I could really stick to such a big commitment, and if Jesus would really satisfy my heart, and what if I met the love of my life during this dating fast, I set out on a journey with Christ that has changed my life. What began as a yearlong dating fast became a two-year dating fast (if you’d like to learn more about how my dating fast doubled in length, shoot me an email—[email protected]), and along the way, I have learned so much about myself, about Jesus and his love for me (it really does satisfy every desire), and about how my future spouse is called to love me. (Jesus sets the bar pretty high, y’all.)

Ladies (and gents!), know that Christ is pursuing you, just like he pursued me. He is the Great Lover, the Great Romancer, and he wants to give you every desire your heart longs for. He wants to give you the love you’re seeking. He wants you to know who He is. He wants you to know who you are. He wants you to know the love he has for you. Christ wants all of you, especially your heart. Give Jesus a chance to romance you.

He’ll write you the most beautiful love story you’ve ever seen.

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About the Author

Carrie Miller is from Farmington, NM. She graduated in May 2011 from New Mexico State University with a degree in English. This is her second year with Life Teen Missions. Carrie is passionate about Green Bay Packers football, country music, and New Mexican cuisine. If you would like to contact Carrie, you can reach her at [email protected]