Erik and Bridget Martin


Do you ever find yourself saying things like this? Ok, maybe you don’t. Maybe it’s more like:

–       I love my new iPhone 5 or iPad or

–       I love Call of Duty or

–       I love the new Taylor Swift album or

–       I love Chick-fil-A or

–       I love Starbucks or

–       I love hunting and fishing or

–       I love to dance

I mean, you can fill in the blank, but most, if not all, of us at some point or another have publicly proclaimed a statement like this.


One thing that I ENJOY is playing the game “If you knew me”.  If you knew me… you would know that I really ENJOY college football.  If you knew me… you would know that I really ENJOY Chipotle and if you knew me… you would know that the title of this blog is completely and utterly false on many accounts.  Now, I know for many of you One Direction fans reading this you are probably like, “I am totally done reading this, I was duped”.  Well, I encourage you to keep reading, and I promise I won’t bash on your dearest 1D.

About a year ago I decided to start a revolution to take back the word “Love”. So often we find ourselves using this word to describe things that diminish and water down the true meaning of this powerful word.


When you think about it, it sounds ridiculous that I would use the same word to describe my affection for Cool Ranch Doritos that I would use to describe my affection for my beautiful bride, my daughter or even worse, my affection for my God who died for me and rescued me from a life of sin; especially when we have a pretty extensive English language and vocabulary.  Every time I use the word “Love” to describe how I feel about an inanimate object, it cheapens the word and robs my bride (both wife and Christ) of accurately portraying how I feel.


We learn in scripture that God is Love. (1 John 4:8)  We also learn that true Love was defined on the cross.  By dying for us, Jesus perfected Love.  “No one has greater Love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (John 15:13)  Love is sacrificial by its very nature.  A good litmus test for whether or not you are using the word “Love” correctly is asking yourself, “Would I be willing to die for this thing that I’m claiming to Love?”.  If the answer is no, then maybe we should be using a different word to describe how we feel.  I find most often that I could easily replace the word “Love” with “enjoy” to express how I feel, rather than water down this sacred word. I challenge you to join me in this Revolution in taking back the word “Love”.  Every time you find yourself using it incorrectly, correct yourself and share this logic with your friends.  Together let’s fight to take back the sacredness of this word! Who’s with me?



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Erik and Bridget Martin

About the Author

Erik and Bridget were married in April of 2011. Bridget was a missionary with Family Missions Company for 10 years and Erik became a missionary with Life Teen in 2007. They currently live and serve at Life Teen Covecrest, located in Tiger, GA focusing on local outreach and leading short term foreign mission trips for college students.