Have you ever had a crush on someone? You know, how you just think that everything they do is cute. Most of the time, after a little while these crushes go away, but sometimes it turns into a relationship. That is what I want to talk about.
I started dating someone a month and a half ago. When I was talking to someone about it from our Covecrest community she asked me a question: what is different about this relationship than your previous one? After our first date, I texted her jokingly saying this relationship is different because our first date was confession and dinner, but I knew it was more than that and I really had to think about it.
We, as missionaries, live according to the mission “Rule of Life” based on the Rule of Saint Benedict. Every day during morning prayer, we read a part of that rule to remember what it says. One of the parts of that rule is: Glorify God in Relationships. A sentence in that part that really stuck out to me was: “relationships with one another are to flow out of our love for God and more importantly, His love for us.”
That is why this relationship is different. We try to lead each other closer to God and holiness instead of leading each other closer to ourselves.
I love God so much that I want my boyfriend to have that same love for God. My main goal is to help him get to Heaven. Like it says in 1 Corinthians 8:13, “Therefore, if food causes my brother to sin, I will never eat meat again, so that I may not cause my brother to sin.” Well, of course I am not talking about food, but I want my behavior to lead my boyfriend closer to God and not to sin.
If you’re in a relationship now, a question you might want to ask yourself is, “Am I leading him or her closer to God?” And the other way around, “Is he/she leading me closer to God?” Even if you are not dating, you can also ask yourself these same questions about your friends. Today, remember how much God loves you and allow His love to flow through you into each relationship you have.