Like most girls, I love watching chick flicks. It is romantic and exciting to watch a love story unfold and end happily ever after. However, at the end of the movie, I feel incomplete as a single woman and immediately start daydreaming about my future spouse.
St. Paul says, “The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit,” 1 Corinthians 7:34.
Am I acting as though I am unmarried or married when I am focusing on my future spouse? Sometimes when we think our vocation is marriage, we tend to focus on catching a guy with our beauty. The more we flirt, the quicker we fall in love and live happily ever after… or so we think.
“Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised,” Proverbs 31:30.
St. Paul isn’t saying we can’t look beautiful; he’s saying a woman who fears the Lord is desirable. Before we think about marriage and dating, we must first learn how to be a holy woman of God. When God is the center of our lives, He will provide the right husband in the right time.
In the meantime, God wants to romance us. He says in Hosea 2:14, “Therefore, behold, I will allure her, bring her into the wilderness and speak kindly to her.” God has an adventure planned for your single years. If you are not focused on Him, you may miss the opportunity to find His blessings. Here’s 4 ways you can start your romance with God:
- Every relationship needs communication. If you want to have a healthy relationship with God, start listening to what He wants to tell you through His word. Check out the daily mass readings on LifeTeen.com or use an outline that guides you through the Bible in one year (It’s only 4-6 pages a day).
- Evaluate your activities and try to find hobbies that bring you closer to God. Writing poetry and keeping a journal can help you release stress in your life. Try writing what you are grateful for and your prayers intentions. In a few months, revisit them and see how God answers you.
- There are a few things to keep in mind if you decide to date. First, ask yourself what your motives are for dating. Keep an open heart and evaluate if your romantic relationships are drawing you closer or farther away from God. Always pray and discern if God wants the relationship to lead to marriage. Knowing marriage is in the distance future, ask yourself if the relationship is a good idea for your emotional and physical purity.
- Read books that helps strengthen your faith (ask your YM or CORE for ideas). You can find books at the Life Teen online store or check out Life Teen blogs/podcasts/videos online.
In our world, there are so many distractions that pull us away from God’s love. I’m not telling you to give up chick flicks and guys; I am encouraging you to be more aware of the negative messages that could draw you away from God’s plan for your life. By adding God into your daily life, you can spend less time worrying about things you can’t control and more time being loved by an infinite being.