Today the song “Payphone” by Maroon 5 came on the radio as I was driving. Of course since then I’ve had it stuck in my head . . . particularly the line, “If ‘happy ever after’ did exist, I would still be holding you like this.”
This line annoys me. If I could say two things to Adam Levine (the lead singer) I would tell him:
1) “Happily ever after” does exist
2) Don’t tell me you’re out of change; you have lots of money
But Adam, I understand where you’re coming from; it can feel like “happily ever after” isn’t possible sometimes. It feels that way because we’re looking for happiness in the wrong places.
I know I’m guilty of it! I find myself seeking attention or wanting to buy more shoes (I have plenty . . . my Dad will agree) and I think that will make me happier. Or like in the case of this song, it’s tempting to think that I’ll be happier if I’m in a relationship, if I find that perfect boyfriend.
But pretty soon that doesn’t satisfy anymore. Look at how often people are dating and breaking up. The problem is that there’s a longing that was placed in our hearts for something more. We keep searching for the next best thing or person, but that perfect person has been knocking on the door to our hearts all along. Are you listening?
God created us to long for Him. St. Thomas More said, “God alone satisfies.” And St. Augustine said, “My heart is restless until I rest in You.”
True happiness is found in encounters with God, not the opposite sex.
I’ve found that when I have a relationship with God and allow Him to completely fulfil me, I’m free to enjoy other things and people, but I’m not dependant on them to make me happy. I know some incredible, Catholic, married couples who say that no matter how much they love each other, they can’t expect one another to “be everything.” That place in our hearts is reserved for God.
It sounds great in theory, right? God = happiness . . . easy.
But then I leave the chapel, life happens, and I forget all over again. Does that sound familiar to you too? I’ve realized I have to receive the sacraments and daily talk with God and listen to Him in order to not fall into this trap.
God wants us to have “happily ever after” but you won’t find it by changing your relationship status on Facebook. Fall in love with God; He won’t let you down.
He also won’t call you from a payphone . . .