If you've been around a radio, a mall, or anyone under the age of 30 recently, you've almost certainly heard the song 'Call Me Maybe.' It's extremely catchy and has made countless men panic when realizing they're singing it in public. A lot of us, when hearing the lyrics, just dismiss it as some ridiculous pop song with no redeeming value. However, as is true with most of these songs, if you listen closely you might hear something interesting that ties into your life.
I’ve always thought the expression “people person” was kind of funny. I mean, I understand being a dog person or a cat person. You may like them and you may not. But how can you not like people? I guess I thought everyone was a people person! I consider myself a people person because I’ve always loved being around people and my friends make me so happy. However, sometimes I take this to extremes and rely on the people around me for everything.
Whether single or in a relationship, dating can be a wonderful, exciting, intimidating, and sometimes bizarre event. The stress of just figuring out what to wear can send you over the edge. Then there are all the other details. Who is paying? Where do we go? Do we show affection? How do I flirt? Or more importantly, how do we just survive those crippling embarrassing moments.
I always have the worst dates.
Seriously, the movie How To Lose a Guy in Ten Days has nothing on me. My dating disasters have been frequent and broad in their range of humiliation: I have been taken to the hospital, spilled my drink over my date's new couch, called the guy by the wrong name, got lost and stuck in a ditch, and laughed so hard I choked on my meal nearly causing the waiter to perform the Heimlich.
And you wonder why I am still single?
But wait there's more. Here are my top two worst date experiences.
In high school, I played football and ran for track and field. As a young man just coming into my faith, it was tough to see and hear the guys talk about women in a way that was so degrading. It forced me to question what the truth was. I was learning about God and His plan for us, but what the other guys were saying was completely contradictory to what God was saying.
I got to a point where I looked at what society was telling me would make me happy regarding women: sex, popularity and partying; and I asked myself, 'Is that it? Is this as good as it gets in life?'
There was something inside me that wasn't satisfied with that. There was a burning in my heart for so much more. I knew that God had greater plans.
Are you looking for some creative date ideas to do with a special someone this month? Valentines day is right around the corner and why not celebrate in a fun and creative way?
There is no reason why you cannot make this date the Best. Date. Ever.
Say “Goodbye” to boring because here are some ideas to help spark your imagination.
Also, eye contact is important. How many times does the person you're speaking to feel they have your undivided attention? Turn off screens … get away from them. Eye contact is the quickest and simplest way to acknowledge Christ in the other.
Now, if you're having a 'conversation' through a screen, ask yourself if that's the best medium to be using to have that conversation. Words can be misread and mistaken. Do you ever text just 'because you don't want to get into a long conversation?' Go the extra mile. Don't text when you can call. Don't call when you can sit face to face. Don't sit face to face and have your mind in another area code. A huge part of authentic communication is emotional presence, not only physical presence.
Since that first crush, I’ve experienced love in many different forms. I’ve seen it. I’ve given it and had it taken away. I’ve hated it and dreamed of it. I’ve said yes to it in the form of the Sacrament of Marriage and yet still have so much to learn.