He Doesn’t Need Your Sext: A Response to Jennifer Lawrence by Matt Fradd • October 8, 2014 Secondly, it’s false. She says men have two options: 1) look at porn, or 2) look at you. And by “look at you,” I assume she doesn’t mean, “look at you while you’re praying the rosary on your evening walk together.” No, she means either a guy will lust over you or someone else. It’s like saying, “either your boyfriend will be obese or he’ll be anorexic.” Isn’t there a third option? Like, maybe he’ll be healthy? And there is such a thing as sexual health, we call it chastity. Though chastity may conjure up images of either uncomfortable belts or the notion of repressing sexuality in the name of “abstinence”… chastity is neither of these things but so much more.