Heroic Masculinity

If we want to understand masculinity, we have to understand God’s original purpose for it. When God created the first man, Adam, He gave him three very important tasks: Adam needed to cultivate life in the garden, he was charged by God to help create new life, and he was the garden’s protector.

Embracing Advancement: An Exciting Life Support Update

A couple of years ago, I sat in my office and watched a video that Life Teen posted of the newest Life Support box being packaged. I sat, awestruck, at the great things that were going to be coming my way. I got excited at all of the new Life Nights and retreat sessions I could plan with these incredible materials… and then I waited.

And waited.

I Thought I was the Youth Ministry Messiah

I accepted a ministry position at a parish that had a floundering youth ministry program, and was confident I would rebuild it. In fact, at one of my first staff meetings I boldly declared that, “by the end of the year, there will be at least 100 teens at every Life Night.” I am the youth ministry messiah, and I have come to save your parish.

I’m Sorry I Walked By: An Open Letter to Peter

I don’t know how many thousands of people walked by you, never looking at you, even turning their eyes away from you. I don’t know how many people insulted you to your face and behind your back. I don’t know your past, where you had been, or what brought you to that corner on that day.

All I know is that I was one of those thousands of people who just walked by.

An Open Letter to Brent: On the Power of Words

Dear Brent, My first year at Life Teen I was the awkward freshman in the corner of the room, trying to go unnoticed, so I understand if you didn’t see me. I saw you, though. You were a confident senior and the center of attention. It seemed like everyone admired you, and with good reason. […]

After the Applause

The other day I was driving in my car and a song came on the radio. This song was by a very well known pop artist who has published a lot of music that we really could debate the moral content of all day. I went to turn the song off, wondering if it would […]

Fear Nothing.

One little bump and I go from calm and collected to, 'This plane is going to crash, and I'm too young to die!'

Yes, I'm that dramatic, sometimes.

I think of all the things that I want to still do with my life, things that I want to accomplish, places I wanted to go; I think of children and enjoying the benefits of becoming an old man who sits on his front porch drinking lemonade and yelling at kids to get off his lawn (face it, you know that is going to be awesome).

Fear will grip me the rest of that flight. I can't focus on anything … not the weird in-flight movie or awkward conversation I am having with the person next to me. I'm gripping the armrest like it will actually steer the plane for the rest of the flight.

Mayan Mayhem: Are We Gonna Die Young?

Christ Himself told us that nobody knows the day or the hour that He will return to judge the living and dead on earth. Not the Mayans, not a television preacher, and certainly not Ke$ha. This means that tomorrow Christ could show up. Would your soul be ready, or would you wish you had more time? The truth about 'living like you are going to die young,' is that we should be living like today is our last day, but realizing that there is eternal life after death. We should be making the most of our lives today … but not through sin, but virtue.

Mayan Mayhem: Are We Gonna Die Young?

Christ Himself told us that nobody knows the day or the hour that He will return to judge the living and dead on earth. Not the Mayans, not a television preacher, and certainly not Ke$ha. This means that tomorrow Christ could show up. Would your soul be ready, or would you wish you had more time? The truth about 'living like you are going to die young,' is that we should be living like today is our last day, but realizing that there is eternal life after death. We should be making the most of our lives today … but not through sin, but virtue.

The Friend Zone: Are you always her friend and never her boyfriend?

In high school I was one of those 'nice Christian guys,' you know, the guy who was always the good friend, but not the boyfriend. I used to complain with my other 'nice guy' friends about being put into the friend zone, that awkward place when you have feelings for a girl but she just wants to be friends. I've been called 'a good friend,' 'like a brother,' and 'a catch . . . for someone else.'

The Friend Zone: Are you always her friend and never her boyfriend?

In high school I was one of those 'nice Christian guys,' you know, the guy who was always the good friend, but not the boyfriend. I used to complain with my other 'nice guy' friends about being put into the friend zone, that awkward place when you have feelings for a girl but she just wants to be friends. I've been called 'a good friend,' 'like a brother,' and 'a catch . . . for someone else.'

Marriage Impossible?

Oh, Tom and Katie, what went wrong? What happened that made a love so exciting, so public, so strange and sort of off-putting, end? It made me wonder about the general state of marriage; about half end in divorce. It seems more and more that marriage is a mission impossible. (See what I did there?)